5 Steps for Successful Self-Hypnosis


In this step you need to consider what you want vs. what you don’t want and you need to be able to distinguish between the form and the essence. In other words, what you’re seeking.

Instead on focusing on what you don’t want, it’s important to focus on WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE to experience. That’s because your subconscious mind says “YES” to whatever you focus upon. If you don’t want illness focus instead on perfect health, if you don’t want to experience stress, focus on experiencing calm.

Sometimes people focus on the “form” (the physical thing) instead on the “essence”

(the feeling they would like to experience). If you desire to create or attract a specific thing into your life, ask yourself what feeling do you believe this thing would give you. 

By focusing on the “essence” of what you want, you expand your options. 

You may find that there are many other ways to experience that desired feeling even now, and by experiencing that feeling now, you further open yourself to attract the thing you desire. 

Many times we chase certain things, only to discover that they didn’t give us the feeling we expected. And even if the thing you originally had it mind does indeed bring you the desired feeling, this process may bring you further insight. Into many different ways to enrich your life, to open yourself to many different opportunities that will allow you to experience even more of that desired feeling.

Experience the feelings in hypnosis, not their causes


Once you know what you want, imagine and FEEL that you already have it. Engage as many of your senses as you can and while in a trance state vividly imagine yourself as if you are already enjoying the desired state, thing, circumstances. You may also re-live your life, in your mind, imagining that you have always had this resource, quality, thing you’d like to experience.

The whole point of the “depth” of hypnosis is to allow you to put your conscious mind and the awareness of the outer world aside, for long enough that you are able to fully experience your desired experience as REAL for you NOW.

It is good to remember that your subconscious mind does not distinguish between what is outside of you – what you may interpret as “real” – and what you experience only in the realm of your mind. The subconscious mind concludes that something is REAL, if it FEELS REAL to YOU NOW.


Successful self-hypnosis is very much like planting seeds. You decide what you would like to grow, you plant the seeds by imagining and feeling that you already have the desired outcome. You don’t have to concern yourself with how is the plant going to grow – it is endowed with intelligence to fulfil its purpose. What you do need to do is pull out the weeds if you notice any.

When you plant seeds of your outcome in your subconscious mind, your doubts, fears, anxieties, conflicting beliefs etc. are weeds you have to uproot. If you believe that it is impossible for you to reach your goal, but you just want to try it, forget about it – it’s not going to work.

If the goal seems too overwhelming, cut it down into smaller, achievable goals – goals you believe are attainable for you now. It doesn’t matter what anyone else has accomplished. The only thing that matters is what you believe is possible for you. Other people’s accomplishments may inspire you but whether you’d be able to accomplish the same, or less, or more, depends only on what you believe to be possible for you, and on the action you’re willing to take.

Comparisons are Enemies

Sometimes people look for “proofs” and assurance outside of themselves, asking other people for their opinions as to whether something is possible or not. However this only tells their subconscious minds that they are still filled with doubt and they don’t really believe that they can experience the results they desire, so they usually don’t. 

The best place to look for “proofs” when using your subconscious mind is in your own experiences, conducting your own experiments.

There is a way to get and create absolutely anything you may ever want to create through the power of your mind. However to overcome your own limitations you either have to have limitless faith, or even better, to do some research and gain understanding why YOU CAN be or have whatever it is you set your heart upon.

The Power of Decision

If you have ever DECIDED to experience something and if you can recall how that feels, you may become aware that at such times your mind was fully focused on your GOAL. And even though you might have been aware of possible obstacles on the road, they have not prevented you in reaching your outcome. When you truly DECIDE that you want something, you cut yourself off any other possibility and you COMMIT yourself to having the experience you desire.

You may be already familiar with a poem by Goethe:

Until one is committed

there is hesitancy,

the chance to draw back,

always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts of initiative

there is one elementary truth

the ignorance of which kills

countless ideas and endless plans:

That the moment one definitely commits oneself,

then providence moves, too.

All sorts of things occur to help one

that would never otherwise have occurred.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision

raising in one’s favour all manner of

unforeseen incidents and meetings and

material assistance which no man

could have dreamed would come his way.

Whatever you can do or

dream you can, begin it!

Boldness has genius, power

and magic in it.


This is probably the hardest step for most people and it may take some practice. To totally and completely trust in the wisdom and power of your mind, universe, God, your Higher Self (pick the term you prefer) to be able to bring into your experience what you asked for.

You may notice that sometimes when you think about something and then you completely forget about it, not even giving it a second thought, just happens. That’s because you have spontaneously let go – by forgetting about it, your subconscious mind was able to take over and create that experience in your life.

Trust yourself to change

Other times you may feel that you want or need something really badly, so badly as a matter of fact, that you can’t let it go – and as much as you want it, you are not allowing it to manifest for you.

When something is really important for you to have and you have no idea where what you need is going to come from, trusting may feel as if you were walking on a tight-rope. With practice, it does get much easier.

Practicing gratitude and expressing gratitude for what you need and/or desire as if you have already received it will help you to get your mind off the worry, and keep it focused on your goal. Check the store to find good journals to help you do this!

I have written before about gratitude, but I’d like to repeat that gratitude will dramatically cut the time it takes to get what you desire, and it will dissolve a lot of obstacles toward getting the results you’d like to create using self-hypnosis.

You can thank your subconscious mind, your unconscious mind, God, universe or whatever you like to refer to the power and intelligence within you and all around you that is able and knows how to bring into manifestation every one of your heart’s desires.


Sometimes what you ask for may come into your life in a slightly different form than what you envisioned. It is important to notice and acknowledge that what you asked for has in some form manifested for you. (It is also why we should focus on the essence rather than the form.)

Sometimes what you ask for may be even better than what you asked for if it was vividly imagined during self-hypnosis!

Sometimes what you ask for may be a far cry from what you wanted. It may be just a signal that what you asked for is on its way. Now is not the time to give up, but to keep on thanking that what you desire or even something better is on its way.

You may also want to re-examine your beliefs, doubts, worries, insecurities, feelings that you don’t quite deserve what you asked for, that it would be too good for you, or perhaps that after all, you don’t really want what you asked for.

Remember that your outer-world experiences only reflect what’s in your mind, so if you don’t like what you’re experiencing, all you need to do is change your mind about it. If you expect only the best in life, and keep on thanking your mind and the universe for giving you the best, in joyful expectation of these experiences – your outer-world experiences will reflect this.

Acknowledge that everything that happens in your life is forever moving you toward the realisation of your goals.

Happy self-hypnosis!


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